Wednesday, September 17, 2008












The infinity sign is very meaningful to my family! It has become our family symbol or stamp. When John and I were raising our five beautiful daughters, we would play the how much do I love you game. We would go through all the numbers, each of us uping the other until we would get to I LOVE YOU INFINITY! When John passed away, we had to design a head stone for his graveside. I wanted to personalize it, to somehow bring our love for him for all to see! This was a difficult process, its hard to do anything while your grieving let alone create something honorable for the man we loved and adored! It came to me clear one day, the game we use to play with the girls, our love game. That was the finishing touch it needed! So on Johns final resting place, is our love infinity stamp. So we made a vow to eachother this will be the same for all of us, the John Crum family is united in love infinity!!

P.S. the song playing is the frist song John and I ever danced to


18 comments:

Tara said...

Oh, gotta love Donna Summer! Nice, I have noticed your family using this symbol quite often, and now I know why. That's so special. You are the best blogger! I'm so lucky your my aunt! Hmmm..is it getting to be time for a touch up? I think your hair must be calling my name! Love ya!

Alexa Mae said...

i love that! i knew that symbol had meant something and now i know for sure. you two were soooo perfect for each other, and your home always had a warm loving, comforting feeling about it and you two made it that way. love you!

Alli said...

I love you infinity!! Our family is so special. I don't know what I would do without you guys. I miss dad so much some times it hurts. I just want to walk in the door and be able to hug him tight and hear his voice. I want to be able to dance around the house and laugh with him. I want him to hold my sweet baby because I know how much he loves babies. I wish he was here to be with all of us. I am so lucky to have had such and amazing dad. I knew I wanted to marry someone just like my daddy. Someone who would love me and look at me the way dad loved and looked at you. You guys were always such a great example to me of what a marriage should be. and I think I found that in Sheldon. I love you so much mom I can't even begin to try to express that to you. You are so beautiful. Look at all you have created. You are truely amazing!Beautiful in every way inside and out! I can't wait for that day where we all can be together again. What a glorious reuion we will have. I know dad will run to you with his arms stretch out. I love our family!! INFINITY!!!!!!

☂niki. said...

after reading alli's comment, i don't know what else i can say...

our family really is special. and we just know how to love without end. the infinity sign fits us perfectly. i am proud to show it. there couldn't have been anything more perfect for dad's head stone.

i talk about yours and dad's loving relationship all the time. i've never seen a couple more in love. you and dad were so different from my friend's parents. you guys held hands and kissed and were affectionate. most kids would get grossed out by it but it meant a lot to me. you taught us by word and action how to love. i love better because of you.

i love you so much. and i love our family so much. i love you times infinity!!!

ps. i didn't know that was the first song you and dad danced to. i liked learning that trivia. so sweet!

☂niki. said...

i really loved this post mom. i read it again after i commented and my comment didn't do justice. you are so wise. so caring. so thoughtful. i'm so proud to be your daughter. this post was just so sweet and i feel like it really sums up our family. thanks for that!

this reminds me...
2 weeks ago, we went out to dinner with cameron and mele to LGO. we were in the LGO grocery store and i bought a bottled juice drink because i was low and we had a 45 min. wait for dinner. i took off the cap and on it was the infinity symbol. i saved it. i'm actually looking at it right now. i think dad was thinking about me that night.

Tracie said...

Lori - I just found your blog - and it has already brought tears to my eyes! I love your posts about John - it still breaks my heart - but I think you and your girls are amazing - I love seeing how much you have all pulled together and have stayed strong through this incredibley hard trial. But you guys are awesome - You are really one of my heros! I love you!

Jillene said...

YOU SEE... this is why you are on my all time favorite family list! I admire the bonds you have, and you are all so genuine and sincere. I'm glad you keep John alive in so many ways that can bring peace and joy to your family. You are truly an example to all.

Thanks for the story! I didn't know that.

Hobbie said...

I love that picture. (i feel like it greets me everytime I come to your house:). Thankyou for the sweet words you left for me. They mean so much to me. I got the chance to spend some time with linds yesterday and it was so great, made me so happy. I love you all so much and hope you know how glad/grateful I am to have you in my life. I miss you!
Lots of Love!!!

Lindsay Jones said...

I love you googooplex infinity! How blessed we are! I am still having some angry feelings, its just easier! Alli and Niki's words couldn't be more true!

mandi said...

well, reading niki's post and hearing about the infinity since on her drink cap, made me remeber the time that dad was leaving us signs, that one day when the computer was on the fritz, or how there was messages on the window from it being all foggy.He is here ,and though those may seem silly,even the thought of dad being near is such a safe an comfortable feeling.When you were in his arms you knew how much you were loved,he was the best example of love and doing anything it took to make our family happy.commuting back and forth to sacramento, so that we didn't have to move, how incredible was he!you and dad set the best examples for us and how to truly love.I know we say it all the time , but we love hard and we love so deep,we love from the very depth of our core!I know dad is waiting for the day to be near us and tuck us all under his arm.I love him and I love you more than you can ever know.You are my strength and the reason, I can make it through the days, because you are so strong.xoxoxo

Michelle said...

Hi Aunt Lori,
I really like your blog, I feel so much more connected to out family through it. I have always thought that the infinity sign was really beautiful and perfect and I love how much it means to you and your family. I haven't every told you this but I was the only extended family member at girls camp with you, Alli and Lexi that night. At first I was in shock and I didn't know what to say...I remeber hugging Alli and telling her I was so sorry. Then they took you away. I remeber talking to my Mom on the phone, she told me that I had to go to Payson to tell my Dad what had happened. I started crying harder than I have every cried before because I didn't know what to do and I didn't want to be the one to tell my Dad. I litterally lost it, I think mainly it was because I saw how hard it was for you and your girls. I didn't know uncle John the best, but I knew how much he loved his family, I knew he was funny, kind of like the life of the party type of guy, and very smart. President Coons ended up driving me to Payson, I cried the whole way and finally reached my Dad, I told him what happened as hard as it was and then we came home to see you. I am not sure why I am telling you this after all this time, I just had a feeling, maybe I need to hear it more than you. I don't know why certain things happen to certain people but I do know that you and your girls are some of the stongest people I have ever known. Like Mandi said, you love hard and you love deep. We all know that you genuinely care. See you all grow from this gives me the strength to know that I can go through anything that comes my way. You have touched so many lives and I know you will be greatly blessed because of it.

Krystal Arnett said...

Oh Lori, I don't think my eyes can take it. Between yours and niki's blogs, i'm doomed. I can see where Niki gets her gift with words. I love the Crum fam amd I think about ya all the time. Your love and strength is so inspiring.

Ging said...

Awesome post. I love you so much. My heart aches for you. I am so glad you have your beautiful girls and now grandkids that make life fun.
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wendy said...

Hi Lori, my mom just told me about your blog and I was so excited to see that you have one. I just love your family, and I loved that post. Your family has such a special love for eachother. Johns funeral was one of the best ones I have ever been to(that sounds weird). You could really feel the love you all have for eachother. Your daughters are so beautiful! Thank you for sharing and I really enjoyed the other comments as well. So sweet.
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Grannie Wright said...

Oh, Lori. I am typing this through my tears. Reading this has brought back a lot of memories. It was good for me to read Michelle's post and hear her memories too. You and the girls are an example of strength to us all. Love you.

The Brinkerhoff's said...

Yeah I am totally addicted. Is that bad? I have an addiction, but at least I am not in denial. right! Well I love your blog and you are so good with words. I will never be like that Travis always is telling me I am a woman of few words, and that he is the girl in the relationship. it's funny but true. well see you soon

Claire, said...

How tender. xo

Lizard said...

Lori, you are an amazing woman. To you, the glass is always half full and that is what I love about you. I am so glad for the years you got to spend with John on this earth, and for the lovely daughters he gave you. You really are one of my fave top five women I'm privileged to know.